Things To Give Up To Be A Successful Leader
Give Up The Need To Impress Others
Why do we impress others?
Easy for me to say. I am a writer, a videographer, a photographer, and many other things.
Why do I do them? For those that do not know me or only live in a shallow will believe that I do this to impress others. I do it because I can, I want to, and most of all when I set my mind to something I do it.
There have been many people in my life that see what I do and believe what to do is being a show off. However, they are entitled to their opinion of me. That is all up to them but there are just some things that I have done that do not justify what they believe.
I wanted to join the US Army and be an infantryman and I did. I waited before starting a family and I did. I started a business and I did, several of them as a matter of fact. I wanted to write a book and I did, six of them so far. Do you see where I am going with this?
All of the things that I did for myself, I did because I want to leave a legacy for my children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. I did these things mostly because I wanted to, so I challenged myself and I did it.
Sure, my younger self was all about impressing my parents, my friends, my family, my bosses, my teachers but eventually you start to figure out that you can only write checks you can cash.
Why do we need to give up the need to impress?
Have some respect for yourself. Impressing others gets you nowhere. However, impressing yourself gets you everywhere.
Have respect for others, as no one likes a show off. Trying to impress others minimizes your impact on others. They will never be certain on just how authentic you really are.
Get rid of that uncertainty by going with your instincts and not the facade that comes with trying to impress others.
How To Impress Others Without Actually Trying To Impress Others.
Be Authentic. By being real, that comes through and those that see you out will do so because of your authenticity.
Be Yourself. As the saying goes, “Be Yourself Because Everyone Else Is Taken.”
Just be yourself and the place that will take you, will most certainly astound you.
What do you do when others are trying to impress you?
Before you do anything rash, find out why they are trying to impress you.
If they are trying to impress you for selfish reason. Let’s say they are name dropping, remember in this social media age, EVERYONE is just one mouse click away. Ask yourself and them what purpose does name dropping serve?
However, if they are trying to impress you for selfless reasons, hear them out. Then give them feedback.
Then make certain to let them know the next time to not work too hard to impress. Let them know to just be themselves.
It works for you, it will work for them.
The Only Person You Need To Impress Is Yourself.
I firmly believe that we must challenge ourselves daily as that is the only way we are going to overcome our need to impress others. By challenging ourselves we make ourselves better people.
My mantra is “Be Better Than You Were Yesterday.” What’s your mantra?
Whatever, that mantra is it should be one that serves your and acts as a motivator to get you to where you really want to be.
Challenge Yourself Constantly. Out do yourself constantly.
When you are constantly challenging yourself, you have absolutely no time to worry about others and what they think or believe. Most importantly, you have no time to worry about whether or not they are impressed by you and what you do.
Keep your challenges up-to-date and changing. Because when you stop changing, you are more apt to fall back into MEDIOCRITY.
You know what happens when you fall back into mediocrity and what it leads to: TRYING TO IMPRESS OTHERS
So embrace change and give up the need to impress others! Challenge yourself to impress ONLY yourself.
David G. Guerra, MBA