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Own Your Hour: From Darkness to Accountability

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I came across an article recently about people facing their so-called “darkest hour.” You have heard it too; the narrative that we are living through the worst times in history. That everything feels broken. That it is all because of what someone else said or what someone else did.

Here is the truth: It is incredibly easy to point fingers. It is even easier to blame the system, your boss, your parents, your children, your partner, or the person who disagreed with you last week. I have been blamed too; cast as the scapegoat or the fall guy more times than I can count. In the future, I guarantee it will happen again. Because I have been there, trust me when I say, I get it.

But this is not about me. And it is not really about whoever you have chosen to blame, either.

It is about ACCOUNTABILITY. Being ACCOUNTABLE to YOURSELF, FIRST.

At some point, we all have to stop, take a breath, and ask ourselves:
“What role did I play in getting here?“

We are each responsible for our choices. Our actions create outcomes. Our decisions shape our direction. And when we land in a “darkest hour,” more often than not, we helped turn off the lights ourselves.

That does not mean you are a failure. It means you are human. I am human. You are Human.

The difference between staying in the dark and stepping into the light is ownership.

Because once you own it, you can change it.

So, if you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or even hopeless, pause for a moment.

Ask yourself:

  • What choices brought me here?
  • What am I avoiding responsibility for?
  • What can I do differently, starting today?

Your darkest hour does not have to be your final chapter. It can be your turning point.

Take back the pen. Write the next page with accountability, intention, and action.

You do not need permission. You just need to decide. Get to work.

Thank you for time,
David Guerra

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2025 – Let Slip The Flying Monkeys

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As we go into the start of a new month and the first weekend of February; the new year remains fresh. It is correct and proper to take time to reflect on the past, the present, and the future. We should always take time to do so.

But, taking time to reflect should always be without blinders and without bias. For those humble enough to accept their flaws without taking a defensive stance know they are not perfect and work hard to always be improving. Always being better than they were yesterday.

Yet, reality shows us those which pure, authentic, and genuine humility are not always in the majority. That is fine because those that are egotistical, lack humility, and have an arrogance which overcomes them are also not in the majority.

Those who have let their ego, arrogance, and sense of entitlement get away from them because no one has ever held them accountable. They have been doing what they do for too long. A stereotype sets in which centers on those lacking self-control and humility getting a free pass at life. It is those that continue to go unchecked and not held accountable going down a path leading to them becoming anything but decent human beings.
The way they behave, the different “faces” (façades) they share with family, friends, and total strangers are too many to believe. When called out, a “victim” mentality kicks in. Not for self-preservation, but to gain blind sympathy of those that are allowed to see the one side, never having the guts to question or attempt to look at the other side.

Those that do not look at the other side do so in fear of becoming the butt of the egoist’s jokes, bad-mouthing, and scapegoating. They fear getting on the egoist’s bad side. So, they flip/flop. They become Cowards. I was a coward (like those that remain now), but I took a stand. Enough was enough of that nonsense. I questioned the actions of the egoist. I called the egoist’s bluff, and true to form, I quickly become the “wrong-doer” and they were born again as the victim. True to form the egotistical narcissist became the victim solely to gain a new gaggle of flying monkeys to help feed the ego. Replacing one for many.

Do not get me wrong, this is not a hit piece, that kind of anger is gone now all that remains is bitterness. What spurred this? Recently, I came across something that has me begging the question: If after years you continue to bring the drama, stir the pot, bad mouth others all while demanding people kiss your ring, can you really call yourself a decent human being?

Folks, they say time heals all wounds. A word of advice/warning: some wounds are never meant to heal while the individual continues to pick at the scabs.

Thank you for indulging me,
David Guerra, MA, MBA

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The First Sunday

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Welcome to the first Sunday of 2025. A day of rest? A day of reflection? A day of preparation? YES, YES, and YES.

This first Sunday should be the one that sets the standard for the remaining 50 Sundays. Yep, there are only 51 total for the year.

Setting Standards?

Standards are what keep you grounded. They help in getting you focused on what needs to be done and what you want to do. By addressing what needs to be done, you have a sense of accomplishment that you will want to repeat. Setting the standard now and adhering to it now, creates an expectation of wanting to repeatedly accomplish what you start and ultimately you will want to accomplish more. Then, over time, you get to incorporate what you want to do (Think Hobby Becoming A Passion).

Take the rest of today to work on the standards and get them set before the sun goes down. Do not delay. You will Thank yourself.

Thank you for your time,
David Guerra

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