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2025 – Let Slip The Flying Monkeys

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As we go into the start of a new month and the first weekend of February; the new year remains fresh. It is correct and proper to take time to reflect on the past, the present, and the future. We should always take time to do so.

But, taking time to reflect should always be without blinders and without bias. For those humble enough to accept their flaws without taking a defensive stance know they are not perfect and work hard to always be improving. Always being better than they were yesterday.

Yet, reality shows us those which pure, authentic, and genuine humility are not always in the majority. That is fine because those that are egotistical, lack humility, and have an arrogance which overcomes them are also not in the majority.

Those who have let their ego, arrogance, and sense of entitlement get away from them because no one has ever held them accountable. They have been doing what they do for too long. A stereotype sets in which centers on those lacking self-control and humility getting a free pass at life. It is those that continue to go unchecked and not held accountable going down a path leading to them becoming anything but decent human beings.
The way they behave, the different “faces” (façades) they share with family, friends, and total strangers are too many to believe. When called out, a “victim” mentality kicks in. Not for self-preservation, but to gain blind sympathy of those that are allowed to see the one side, never having the guts to question or attempt to look at the other side.

Those that do not look at the other side do so in fear of becoming the butt of the egoist’s jokes, bad-mouthing, and scapegoating. They fear getting on the egoist’s bad side. So, they flip/flop. They become Cowards. I was a coward (like those that remain now), but I took a stand. Enough was enough of that nonsense. I questioned the actions of the egoist. I called the egoist’s bluff, and true to form, I quickly become the “wrong-doer” and they were born again as the victim. True to form the egotistical narcissist became the victim solely to gain a new gaggle of flying monkeys to help feed the ego. Replacing one for many.

Do not get me wrong, this is not a hit piece, that kind of anger is gone now all that remains is bitterness. What spurred this? Recently, I came across something that has me begging the question: If after years you continue to bring the drama, stir the pot, bad mouth others all while demanding people kiss your ring, can you really call yourself a decent human being?

Folks, they say time heals all wounds. A word of advice/warning: some wounds are never meant to heal while the individual continues to pick at the scabs.

Thank you for indulging me,
David Guerra, MA, MBA

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The First Sunday

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Welcome to the first Sunday of 2025. A day of rest? A day of reflection? A day of preparation? YES, YES, and YES.

This first Sunday should be the one that sets the standard for the remaining 50 Sundays. Yep, there are only 51 total for the year.

Setting Standards?

Standards are what keep you grounded. They help in getting you focused on what needs to be done and what you want to do. By addressing what needs to be done, you have a sense of accomplishment that you will want to repeat. Setting the standard now and adhering to it now, creates an expectation of wanting to repeatedly accomplish what you start and ultimately you will want to accomplish more. Then, over time, you get to incorporate what you want to do (Think Hobby Becoming A Passion).

Take the rest of today to work on the standards and get them set before the sun goes down. Do not delay. You will Thank yourself.

Thank you for your time,
David Guerra

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2024: CHAINS…ROPES…OH MY!

As we venture in our journey of life, there are somethings that happen that are meant to set us free, while others are there to anchor us to the world we live in.

Like a ship that is docked, it has ropes that keep it tied to the pier. That way it does not drift away in the night. When the ship is ready to set sail the lines are cast off and soon, it is on a path to places over the horizon on a course set by the ship’s captain.

The anchor is attached to a chain and when the ship is ready to temporarily stop, it drops anchor. When it is time to move on, hoist the anchor, and soon back on course to places over the horizon.
Do you see a pattern there? If not, that’s ok. I am going to explain it anyway.

Ships are built to head to the high seas. Ships are built to withstand rough seas. Ships are built to not only move from point A to point B but are also built to stay afloat, to stay above water.
As a Self-Leader you are also built to keep moving. You are NOT built to stay docked at any port for too long. You are also not built to stay anchored anywhere for too long. What does that mean?
It means that you are built to continue to grow, to develop, to become better than you are now.

While all this might sound like something I have said over and over before, it is because I have said it over and over. I believe in what I say. I stand by what I say. I have this passion for people to step up and be the leaders they know they can be and are. I stick to my passion because the message I share is that important.

Over the decades I have been on this planet, I have witnessed good and bad. Good things, Bad Things. Good People and Bad People. Though it would be easy to say that I have seen just about all there is to see when it comes to Good and Bad. I promise you I have only seen the tip of the iceberg. Of what I have witnessed, rest assured it still surprises me to the levels of Good and Bad people can and do go to.

That’s ok, I know that as a human being I am capable of going to those extremes. I opt out of that. No one is, no matter how much they try to kid themselves, no one is perfect. I am not perfect.
Sure, people can claim they live a pious life but are they really? A pious person would never verbally proclaim their piety for a truly pious person lets their actions and behaviors do all the talking for them.

On the other hand, there are individuals that revel in their unabashed devious behavior. The boasting and bragging of their deceit are certainly not something to be proud of or to be used as a tool to make others fear them. The pious and the deceitful have one thing in common.

They have their chains and ropes tying them down. Tying them down to live the braggadocios life they have chosen to use as a facade to mask their inability to cast off their lines and hoist their anchor to live a life they can freely choose to live. While some may argue that the pious or the deceitful are living the life they choose but at what cost? This argument can quickly become a circular argument thus, I offer this advice or words of warning:

As we venture in our journey of life, while there is no set time to cast off the ropes and hoist your anchor. You will know when the time comes. Only you will know when the time comes to set yourself free, especially when there are others trying to anchor you down or keep you tied to the dock in the name of keeping you safe. The world is not a safe harbor. The world we live in has rough seas as well as smooth swells all of which you are more than capable of handling.
Get to work!

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David Guerra, MA, MBA

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