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The Rule of 25%

THE RULE OF 25%

Did you know, 1 in 4 people we meet or deal with do NOT like us?

The 25% Rule by David Guerra

What?

That’s right a full 25% of all people do not like us.

How can it be?

It is just human nature. For some reason or another, there are individuals out there that flat out do not like us, no matter what we do or say to try to change their attitude towards us. However, they just won’t budge.

On the bright side, 25% of who we meet or deal with will like us no matter what, no questions asked.

Why just 25%? It is just human nature. For some reason or another they unconditionally LIKE us.

What about the other 50%?

That is simple: 25% don’t you like but when they get to know you will like you.

The last 25%, I call the posers. They start off liking you but quickly find something that they don’t like about you and are gone.

Now don’t get me started with the people that love us but do not like us. It happens, more than you think or want to admit (it is also for a future conversation).

In the mean time, it is time to admit that you will never be able to change the minds of those individuals that do not like you. So stop giving them any attention, giving them your time, and most off all stop giving them any of your energy.

The sooner you stop, the sooner you will start to feel better about yourself. The sooner you will realize that any need for validation from those people is for naught. You can make it without them. You made it this far. It is when you give them attention, time, and energy that you start spinning you wheels and STOP you from moving forward.

STOP giving them anything that drains you and gives them no care because they do not care about you nor do they like you.

KEEP the attention, time, and energy on those that like you.

Genuinely, HONOR those that like you and they will honor you with more people that like you.

Thank you,
David Guerra

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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 051016

On Tuesday, May 10, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place
The #DareToBe topic was WISH (WISHES, WISHING, WISHED)

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.


Q1: What is a wish? #DareToBe
A1. A wish is a desired want or need that is not yet fulfilled #DareToBe

Q2: Wishing is often linked to children. Why are some adults uncomfortable making them? #DareToBe
A2. This adult is NOT uncomfortable making them. I wish for a lot but I know that if I work hard I can get what I want #DareToBe

Q3: You can make your wishes come true by _______________. #DareToBe
A3. You can make your wishes come true by setting goals and working to make them come to fruition. #DareToBe

Q4: A genie has granted you three wishes. What are they? #DareToBe
A4. 1. Health for my family  2. Success in Education 3. Ability to travel on a whim #DareToBe

Q5: Have you ever had a wish come true? What was it? #DareToBe
A5. Go back to Berlin and walk where “no man’s land” was. I did. #DareToBe

Q6: We’ve heard the phrase “dream big.” Is there such thing as too big? Explain. #DareToBe
A6. One can never dream too big. One person’s big is another’s not so big. That’s where others can come in and help make dreams come true #DareToBe

Q7: If you want something you’ve never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done. Agree/Disagree? #DareToBe
A7. True, True. I want a Ferrari, then I have to have the money to afford me the purchase. #DareToBe

Q8: Is there an unhealthy side to wishing? Elaborate. #DareToBe
A8. Too much of a good thing can be bad. In my case, all that travel would be draining and stressful #DareToBe

Q9: Wishes only work when ________________. #DareToBe
A9. Wishes only work when you work to make those wishes come true. #DareToBe

Q10: Give an example of how wishes come true all the time, even when you haven’t wished them. #DareToBe
A10. When one individual is genuinely kind to another #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to wish for________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to wish for more patience, peace, and prosperity. #DareToBe


I invite you to join us on Twitter every Tuesday evening at 8PM Eastern / 7PM Central. Look for the #DARETOBE hashtag.

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ON MENTORSHIP

The Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary defines Mentor as “someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person.” Mentorship is the art of being a mentor.

WHY IS MENTORSHIP IMPORTANT?

When it comes to moving forward into the future, looking back to the past is the usually the best thing to do. Sure, we are told to be bold and take that step into the uncertain future. However, what happens when we are taking a step on a path someone else has already taken? That is not good.

Simply, we are walking down a beaten path. While the beaten path is great to take when going down to the corner market for a gallon of milk, it is most certainly not the best to take when you want to do something new and exciting. When you want to blaze a trail into the unknown.

Having a Mentor is one way to avoid taking the path others have taken time and again. Thus, the individual being mentored can spend more time moving forward and less time walking where others have walked.

Mentorship has been around for ages. Ever since Homo habilis (early man) took his son out to hunt for the first time. Dad showed his would be hunter son which stick to use on the menacing Mastodon and which stones to use on the Saber-tooth tiger down by the watering hole. Then when the son grew up and had a son of his own, he passed on not only Dad’s tips and tricks to hunting Saber-tooth tiger but he added what he learned on his own. The when that son grew up, the entire process of teaching how to hunt is repeated and each time just a bit more is added. That process makes every subsequent generation better at hunting and thus here we are. Humans. Top of the Food Chain.

WHO SHOULD BE A MENTOR?

If you have something to teach, Teach!
If you have something to share with others, Share it!
If you find yourself with followers, Lead!
When you find people turn to you for answers. You are a MENTOR!

In essence, what I am trying to say is EVERYONE should recognize they are a mentor. No matter what your vocation is (if you have one) and no matter where you are in life, you will always have someone looking to you for advice, guidance, or direction.

Important to remember, when you open your mouth to say something is NOT the time you become a mentor. You become a mentor the moment some has come to you seeking that advice.

WHO SHOULD BE MENTORED?

If you have a question, someone must be answer it.
If you do not know how to do something, someone must teach you.
If you find yourself looking for direction, someone must show you.

In essence, what I am trying to say is EVERYONE should be mentored. No matter what rung on the company ladder you find yourself, you need a mentor. You need to remember that you cannot do everything that you want to do all at once. Better men and women than you have tried. Some succeeded but most failed. That is why; you must seek out their knowledge and wisdom to help avoid those mistakes. Therefore, if you fail the damage might not be as bad or big as those that failed before you. You will have learned something for the next attempt.

While all of us have something to give and share with others, we also have much more to learn from others. I leave you with bit of advice: find a mentor and be one for others.


David Guerra is a US Army Veteran, Author, Small Business Starter, Leadership Advocate and Action Taker.
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