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The Rule of 25%

THE RULE OF 25%

Did you know, 1 in 4 people we meet or deal with do NOT like us?

The 25% Rule by David Guerra

What?

That’s right a full 25% of all people do not like us.

How can it be?

It is just human nature. For some reason or another, there are individuals out there that flat out do not like us, no matter what we do or say to try to change their attitude towards us. However, they just won’t budge.

On the bright side, 25% of who we meet or deal with will like us no matter what, no questions asked.

Why just 25%? It is just human nature. For some reason or another they unconditionally LIKE us.

What about the other 50%?

That is simple: 25% don’t you like but when they get to know you will like you.

The last 25%, I call the posers. They start off liking you but quickly find something that they don’t like about you and are gone.

Now don’t get me started with the people that love us but do not like us. It happens, more than you think or want to admit (it is also for a future conversation).

In the mean time, it is time to admit that you will never be able to change the minds of those individuals that do not like you. So stop giving them any attention, giving them your time, and most off all stop giving them any of your energy.

The sooner you stop, the sooner you will start to feel better about yourself. The sooner you will realize that any need for validation from those people is for naught. You can make it without them. You made it this far. It is when you give them attention, time, and energy that you start spinning you wheels and STOP you from moving forward.

STOP giving them anything that drains you and gives them no care because they do not care about you nor do they like you.

KEEP the attention, time, and energy on those that like you.

Genuinely, HONOR those that like you and they will honor you with more people that like you.

Thank you,
David Guerra

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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 051716

On Tuesday, May 17, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place.
The #DareToBe topic was QUESTIONS (QUESTIONING, QUESTIONED)

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.

Q1: What image comes to mind when you think of the topic “questions?” #DareToBe
A1. That old slogan from the Nat’l Enquirer “Enquiring minds want to know.” #DareToBe

Q2: Four-year-olds ask a lot of questions. Why does our questioning decrease as we grow older? #DareToBe
A2. We curtail our amount of questioning because most don’t want people thinking of them as a 4 yr old, unfortunately. #DareToBe

Q3: A side effect of not asking questions is _______________. #DareToBe
A3. not getting to know others and how they think, behave, how they are. #DareToBe

Q4: Give an example of a time when you wished you had asked more questions. Why didn’t you? #DareToBe
A4. before joining the Army. I wished I had asked how to do more in my brief time (I thought I was doing a lot already) #DareToBe

Q5: Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers. –Voltaire/ Agree or Disagree? Explain. #DareToBe
A5. Agree. The questions determine what point of view and how deep the thought process goes #DareToBe

Q6: What benefits come from asking questions? #DareToBe
A6. The major benefit is learning more from both the question and the answer #DareToBe

Q7: The key to asking a good question is ________________. #DareToBe
A7. The key to asking a good question is expecting an even better answer #DareToBe

Q8: Is there such thing as a dumb question? Explain. #DareToBe
A8. There is such a thing as a dumb question when it is intentionally asked with malice. #DareToBe

Q9: At times questions create stress. How can we make others feel less threatened by questions? #DareToBe
A9. By explaining the question in as much detail as possible. Don’t bore them but explain that rationale behind the question #DareToBe

Q10: In today’s fast-paced world answers are often rewarded more than questions. How can we shift the focus? #DareToBe
A10. By expecting people to ask questions that are polar opposite of “Who are you wearing?” type questions #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to ask about ________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to ask about things I don’t usually ask. Starting with more WHY questions. #DareToBe

I invite you to join us on Twitter every Tuesday evening at 8PM Eastern / 7PM Central. Look for the #DARETOBE hashtag.

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IN THE NEWS: Sears Closures (a tale of transformation?)

On Thursday, April 21, 2016 Sears Holdings announced “it will close 68 Kmart and 10 Sears stores this summer in its latest move to cut losses.” (http://www.wfaa.com/money/78-sears-kmart-stores-to-close-see-the-list/147799701)

Folks, the only question we should be asking is why are these “anchor” type stores (the big ones at the mall) closing when the economy is doing better and gasoline prices are relatively cheap?

Think about this: When gas prices are low people have more money in their pockets that can be used to spend at places like Sears. Overall, the economy appears to be moving in a positive direction.

The U.S.Gross Domestic Product (GDP) grew 1.4 percent in the 4th Quarter of 2015 while positive is a slower pace than the 2.0 percent in the previous quarter. (http://www.bea.gov/newsreleases/glance.htm)

Heck, even real disposable personal income increased 0.3 percent in February 2016. No matter how you look at things, positive growth is still positive growth.

Realistically, I know all this can change on a dime but for now things are poised for a pretty good year. Also, I am not part of the Sears Holdings inner circle and will almost never know what the real reason may be for the closures. That’s alright, all this speculation is pretty good.

Also what exactly what kind of “transformation” is needed to make the organization “profitable”? Unless the organization is planning to open more specialized (niche) stores, doing the same old thing (only less of it) is NOT going to cut it.