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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 050316

On Tuesday, May 3, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place.
The #DareToBe topic was EMOTIONS

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.


Q1: What are emotions? #DareToBe
A1. Emotions are what we use to express (verbally and visually) how we are feeling #DareToBe

Q2: Is there a difference between emotions and feelings? Explain. #DareToBe
A2. emotions are using a state of mind while feelings are more tangible (i.e., bodily reactions such as I feel sick) #DareToBe

Q3: What emotion describes your day so far today? Did you choose to express it? Explain your choice. #DareToBe
A3. Happy. It was a great business day. Starting a new project w/ new client #DareToBe

Q4: Emotions that are not released can cause _________________. #DareToBe
A4. Emotions that are not released can cause physical problems due to the unreleased tension & stress. #DareToBe

Q5: Give a tip on how someone can better identify (rather than bury) their emotions. #DareToBe
A5. Journal: write down the situation especially the cause, how it made them feel, and proposed resolution #DareToBe

Q6: You cannot change or control your emotions. True or False? Explain. #DareToBe
A6. False: You can change and control your emotions. It can be a long journey for some but it can be done #DareToBe

Q7: How do you validate whether a certain emotion is necessary or unnecessary? #DareToBe
A7. All emotions are necessary (they are who we are). The thing is which ones are the one we should pay more attention to #DareToBe

Q8: __________________ affects emotions. #DareToBe
A8. Living affects emotions. Without living how will we know when to be sad, and most importantly when to love? #DareToBe

Q9: What are some actions people partake in to avoid feeling their emotions? #DareToBe
A9. They can avoid being around others that cause them to feel bad. #DareToBe

Q10: It takes a lot of energy to bury emotions and keep them buried. How can we help people realize it’s ok to “feel?” 🙂 #DareToBe
A10. Empathize but never sympathize. Let them know you care and are there for them (even if just to listen) #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to better understand emotions by ________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to better understand emotions by listening to myself, pause then act instead of just reacting. #DareToBe


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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 042616

On Tuesday, April 26, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place.
The #DareToBe topic was CHOICES

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.


Q1: A choice is _____________. #DareToBe
A1. A choice is having the option to take action or not taken after collecting data and forming a plan of action  #DareToBe

Q2: What/who affects your choices? #DareToBe
A2. The potential impact of my choices are what affect making them. Most times the good outweighs the bad.  #DareToBe

Q3: We often hear the words, “I have no choice.” Is that really true? Why/why not? #DareToBe
A3. Yes, sometimes outside forces dictate whether or not an employee can be kept on the payroll (see oil industry for more info) #DareToBe

Q4: Give examples of choices you recently made (one big, one small). #DareToBe
A4. Fired a customer because of the lack of respect and bad behavior by that customer. #DareToBe

Q5: Is there a difference between picking and choosing? Explain. (inspired by @GreenChileAdict) #DareToBe
A5. picking and choosing: I can pick berries but I can choose to eat them or not. #DareToBe

Q6: Why is it difficult for some people to make choices? #DareToBe
A6. Fear of the unknown. So many options = so many options to fail (or SUCCEED) #DareToBe

Q7: Does choosing mean that we can’t have it all? (Inspired by @StrategicMonk 5 seconds ago) #daretobe
A7. Reality is we can never have it all. When we get what we want we want more. (i.e., cell phone storage always at capacity) #DareToBe

A8: “Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.” Give an example. #daretobe
A8. Firing that long time customer. He always paid and brought in big projects but it had to be done. #DareToBe

Q9: What question may you ask yourself when deciding over A or B? #DareToBe
A9. Almost always it’s “what will the outcome be if I don’t choose A?” then ask for B. #DareToBe

Q10: The choices I make matter because _______________. #DareToBe
A10. The choices I make matter because the outcome will always impact someone’s life. #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to choose ________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to choose to be even more deliberate in my decision-making. #DareToBe


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Bargaining & Change Management

00-changeThe world is full of change. Yet, too many want to ignore it by burying their head in the sand. Others roll over and let it happen. However, too few honestly and openly embrace change. When it comes to change having a Leader manage and direct change is not only expected, it should be demanded, as it will most certainly be a wild and bumpy ride.

Change management is possible when everyone has a suitable stake in the change. However, the problem in managing change comes from the fact not everyone can have an equitable stake.

This is where controlling the change becomes an issue. One man’s cake is another man’s cupcake and the two shall never be the same. In managing change. There can be only one taking the reins of change. Leading, managing, directing change is not negotiable otherwise without it there would be nothing, not even organized chaos. Without leadership and proper management of change, there is still change.

In this case, change would be in the form of stagnation or regression causing external stakeholders and outside influencers to observe the organization’s inability to grow and lack of satisfaction among internal stakeholders.

Change in the modern workplace must be based on suitability and NOT equability. Suitability on the organization’s need to grow so all stakeholders are active participants of the function of the operation and not become former participants.

Thus if any bargaining does exist or come into play it is the leader’s will to dictate and drive the bargain exclusively on suitability. Meaning in business, NOT all things are equal and sometimes the good of the organization must take precedence over the needs of the individual or the few. If business operations were solely driven by those not in a position to make business decisions on a strategic level then the business would fail as the tactical side of the functions of business would quickly find itself lacking support, chiefly logistical and financial then the rest would follow much like a line of dominoes falling.

While change is good, having an organization not afraid to make change based on the good of everyone is even better. An organization that values its employees and other stakeholders will most certainly make change happen faster and better after having considering all issues. Thus, the true bargaining was done long before change even started.

No matter where you on the corporate ladder you are and how you react to change is pointless. It is pointless, as no matter how hard you fight it, resist it, or ignore it change is already here and it is going nowhere.