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ON MENTORSHIP

The Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary defines Mentor as “someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person.” Mentorship is the art of being a mentor.

WHY IS MENTORSHIP IMPORTANT?

When it comes to moving forward into the future, looking back to the past is the usually the best thing to do. Sure, we are told to be bold and take that step into the uncertain future. However, what happens when we are taking a step on a path someone else has already taken? That is not good.

Simply, we are walking down a beaten path. While the beaten path is great to take when going down to the corner market for a gallon of milk, it is most certainly not the best to take when you want to do something new and exciting. When you want to blaze a trail into the unknown.

Having a Mentor is one way to avoid taking the path others have taken time and again. Thus, the individual being mentored can spend more time moving forward and less time walking where others have walked.

Mentorship has been around for ages. Ever since Homo habilis (early man) took his son out to hunt for the first time. Dad showed his would be hunter son which stick to use on the menacing Mastodon and which stones to use on the Saber-tooth tiger down by the watering hole. Then when the son grew up and had a son of his own, he passed on not only Dad’s tips and tricks to hunting Saber-tooth tiger but he added what he learned on his own. The when that son grew up, the entire process of teaching how to hunt is repeated and each time just a bit more is added. That process makes every subsequent generation better at hunting and thus here we are. Humans. Top of the Food Chain.

WHO SHOULD BE A MENTOR?

If you have something to teach, Teach!
If you have something to share with others, Share it!
If you find yourself with followers, Lead!
When you find people turn to you for answers. You are a MENTOR!

In essence, what I am trying to say is EVERYONE should recognize they are a mentor. No matter what your vocation is (if you have one) and no matter where you are in life, you will always have someone looking to you for advice, guidance, or direction.

Important to remember, when you open your mouth to say something is NOT the time you become a mentor. You become a mentor the moment some has come to you seeking that advice.

WHO SHOULD BE MENTORED?

If you have a question, someone must be answer it.
If you do not know how to do something, someone must teach you.
If you find yourself looking for direction, someone must show you.

In essence, what I am trying to say is EVERYONE should be mentored. No matter what rung on the company ladder you find yourself, you need a mentor. You need to remember that you cannot do everything that you want to do all at once. Better men and women than you have tried. Some succeeded but most failed. That is why; you must seek out their knowledge and wisdom to help avoid those mistakes. Therefore, if you fail the damage might not be as bad or big as those that failed before you. You will have learned something for the next attempt.

While all of us have something to give and share with others, we also have much more to learn from others. I leave you with bit of advice: find a mentor and be one for others.


David Guerra is a US Army Veteran, Author, Small Business Starter, Leadership Advocate and Action Taker.
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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 050316

On Tuesday, May 3, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place.
The #DareToBe topic was EMOTIONS

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.


Q1: What are emotions? #DareToBe
A1. Emotions are what we use to express (verbally and visually) how we are feeling #DareToBe

Q2: Is there a difference between emotions and feelings? Explain. #DareToBe
A2. emotions are using a state of mind while feelings are more tangible (i.e., bodily reactions such as I feel sick) #DareToBe

Q3: What emotion describes your day so far today? Did you choose to express it? Explain your choice. #DareToBe
A3. Happy. It was a great business day. Starting a new project w/ new client #DareToBe

Q4: Emotions that are not released can cause _________________. #DareToBe
A4. Emotions that are not released can cause physical problems due to the unreleased tension & stress. #DareToBe

Q5: Give a tip on how someone can better identify (rather than bury) their emotions. #DareToBe
A5. Journal: write down the situation especially the cause, how it made them feel, and proposed resolution #DareToBe

Q6: You cannot change or control your emotions. True or False? Explain. #DareToBe
A6. False: You can change and control your emotions. It can be a long journey for some but it can be done #DareToBe

Q7: How do you validate whether a certain emotion is necessary or unnecessary? #DareToBe
A7. All emotions are necessary (they are who we are). The thing is which ones are the one we should pay more attention to #DareToBe

Q8: __________________ affects emotions. #DareToBe
A8. Living affects emotions. Without living how will we know when to be sad, and most importantly when to love? #DareToBe

Q9: What are some actions people partake in to avoid feeling their emotions? #DareToBe
A9. They can avoid being around others that cause them to feel bad. #DareToBe

Q10: It takes a lot of energy to bury emotions and keep them buried. How can we help people realize it’s ok to “feel?” 🙂 #DareToBe
A10. Empathize but never sympathize. Let them know you care and are there for them (even if just to listen) #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to better understand emotions by ________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to better understand emotions by listening to myself, pause then act instead of just reacting. #DareToBe


I invite you to join us on Twitter every Tuesday evening at 8PM Eastern / 7PM Central. Look for the #DARETOBE hashtag.

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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 042616

On Tuesday, April 26, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place.
The #DareToBe topic was CHOICES

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.


Q1: A choice is _____________. #DareToBe
A1. A choice is having the option to take action or not taken after collecting data and forming a plan of action  #DareToBe

Q2: What/who affects your choices? #DareToBe
A2. The potential impact of my choices are what affect making them. Most times the good outweighs the bad.  #DareToBe

Q3: We often hear the words, “I have no choice.” Is that really true? Why/why not? #DareToBe
A3. Yes, sometimes outside forces dictate whether or not an employee can be kept on the payroll (see oil industry for more info) #DareToBe

Q4: Give examples of choices you recently made (one big, one small). #DareToBe
A4. Fired a customer because of the lack of respect and bad behavior by that customer. #DareToBe

Q5: Is there a difference between picking and choosing? Explain. (inspired by @GreenChileAdict) #DareToBe
A5. picking and choosing: I can pick berries but I can choose to eat them or not. #DareToBe

Q6: Why is it difficult for some people to make choices? #DareToBe
A6. Fear of the unknown. So many options = so many options to fail (or SUCCEED) #DareToBe

Q7: Does choosing mean that we can’t have it all? (Inspired by @StrategicMonk 5 seconds ago) #daretobe
A7. Reality is we can never have it all. When we get what we want we want more. (i.e., cell phone storage always at capacity) #DareToBe

A8: “Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.” Give an example. #daretobe
A8. Firing that long time customer. He always paid and brought in big projects but it had to be done. #DareToBe

Q9: What question may you ask yourself when deciding over A or B? #DareToBe
A9. Almost always it’s “what will the outcome be if I don’t choose A?” then ask for B. #DareToBe

Q10: The choices I make matter because _______________. #DareToBe
A10. The choices I make matter because the outcome will always impact someone’s life. #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to choose ________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to choose to be even more deliberate in my decision-making. #DareToBe


I invite you to join us on Twitter every Tuesday evening at 8PM Eastern / 7PM Central. Look for the #DARETOBE hashtag.