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HAVING GREAT CONVERSATIONS – A CHART

This week’s CHART focuses on HAVING GREAT CONVERSATIONS

They say SMALL MINDS talk about other People, Average Minds talk about Events and GREAT MINDS talk about IDEAS.

Some of the greatest conversations I have ever had have been about Events and Ideas. The worst conversations I have had the misfortune of being a part of is those when individuals have to talk about others. It leaves me wondering if they can talk about others to me then they must be talking to others about me. I know, I know, those small minds do not know any better.

Sadly, those that exceed at talking about others do so not because of their level of education. I know several very smart, very bright, and highly educated individuals that, at a drop of a hat, dive into the cesspool of talking about others. Even sadder, are those that talking about others it is all they have ever known.

Leaving the temptation of talking about others behind immediately puts you on the trajectory of reaching the high levels of conversations. Delivering on the kinds of conversations that leave people seeking you out in that you not only talk not about others. The conversations you bring to the human interaction are the stuff that people want because it stimulates and intrigues them. It makes others wanting more.

Bring the opposite and others will do all they can to avoid you. As you should do all you can to avoid being in situations where the topic of conversation is others.

Remember, the longer you stick around and listen you rest assured to be mentioned in the next conversation (without you).

I am David Guerra and I said this.

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BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF – A BELL CURVE

This week’s BELL CURVE focuses on BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF

We are all human beings. Yet, we are all very different. But we all have three sides to who we are.

The Public facing side: The side we pridefully show the world. This public facing side is usually facing one way because, heaven forbid others see the rest of who we are. If and when they find out who we are, usually the Public will care as long as it takes for something else to come along and distract them.

The Personal facing side: This is the side we show those close to us. This personal side is usually what we show those we love or keep close. We do so without fear of it being used against us. Yet, there are those occasions where we are either mislead or others collect what we share only to use it as fodder when they

The third side of who we are is our PRIVATE facing side: This is the side what is within us. This side is who we are in our truest form. This private facing side is never revealed, sometimes not even to ourselves. This is called the PRIVATE side for a reason. We all have it. We all live with it. Here in the PRIVATE side resides all our deepest hopes, dreams, fantasies, resentments, and plots of revenge. For most people, that is where they stay.

Many live with all three sides out of balance and broken. They fear truths being revealed. They live in fear and are never happy.
Individuals that do not fear being revealed live in balance. A balance that they have nothing to lose by letting in those that mean no harm. A balance by immediately dealing with those that mean them harm.

The balanced life comes from BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF, FIRST!

I am DAVID GUERRA and I said this.

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GETTING FOOLED ONCE & THEN TWICE – A CHART

This week’s CHART focuses on GETTING FOOLED ONCE & THEN TWICE

Whether it be young age, lack of knowledge, not enough wisdom or whatever the reason may have been WE have ALL been fooled at least once in our lives. Typically, this happens when we are in childhood, when we are most naïve and vulnerable.

Being fooled by others is essential to making us the people we are today. On occasion we need to be fooled by others. You could say it is almost a rite of passage into adult life. Being fooled is part of how we as humans gain wisdom. It is also part of how we grow as human beings. It helps sharpen our senses of self-preservation and makes us more observant about everything around us. Being fooled helps to put us “on guard” for the unsuspected events in our future.

However, what is NOT a rite of passage is allowing ourselves to continually be fooled by others. It is plain and simple extrapolation: The more you continue to allow yourself to get fooled, the more your chances of getting fooled again and again increase.

Once the word gets out that you are an “easy target” because you continue to get fooled the more opportunistic individuals will not only come out of the woodwork but the more, they will try (and succeed) to fool you again.

Most times, no one knows when the next time they will be fooled will occur. However, there are tell-tale signs such as when an offer seems too good to be true or you are being offered an outrageous amount of money only after you pay a “processing fee” or better still the individual(s) that fooled you before comes back to do it again. All which you willingly allow.

Of course, if you recognize that a certain type of individual or situation is returning then understand that it is up to you to do something about it. Either stop the situation from escalating or move yourself out of that situation. Know that when you REFUSE to change the situation, you WILL end up getting fooled again. Then there is one person to blame (NOT the one that fooled you) but the blame rests 100% on YOU.

Remember to old adage, “Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.”

Don’t get fooled again.

I am DAVID GUERRA and I said this.