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The Rule of 25%

THE RULE OF 25%

Did you know, 1 in 4 people we meet or deal with do NOT like us?

The 25% Rule by David Guerra

What?

That’s right a full 25% of all people do not like us.

How can it be?

It is just human nature. For some reason or another, there are individuals out there that flat out do not like us, no matter what we do or say to try to change their attitude towards us. However, they just won’t budge.

On the bright side, 25% of who we meet or deal with will like us no matter what, no questions asked.

Why just 25%? It is just human nature. For some reason or another they unconditionally LIKE us.

What about the other 50%?

That is simple: 25% don’t you like but when they get to know you will like you.

The last 25%, I call the posers. They start off liking you but quickly find something that they don’t like about you and are gone.

Now don’t get me started with the people that love us but do not like us. It happens, more than you think or want to admit (it is also for a future conversation).

In the mean time, it is time to admit that you will never be able to change the minds of those individuals that do not like you. So stop giving them any attention, giving them your time, and most off all stop giving them any of your energy.

The sooner you stop, the sooner you will start to feel better about yourself. The sooner you will realize that any need for validation from those people is for naught. You can make it without them. You made it this far. It is when you give them attention, time, and energy that you start spinning you wheels and STOP you from moving forward.

STOP giving them anything that drains you and gives them no care because they do not care about you nor do they like you.

KEEP the attention, time, and energy on those that like you.

Genuinely, HONOR those that like you and they will honor you with more people that like you.

Thank you,
David Guerra

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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 051716

On Tuesday, May 17, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place.
The #DareToBe topic was QUESTIONS (QUESTIONING, QUESTIONED)

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.

Q1: What image comes to mind when you think of the topic “questions?” #DareToBe
A1. That old slogan from the Nat’l Enquirer “Enquiring minds want to know.” #DareToBe

Q2: Four-year-olds ask a lot of questions. Why does our questioning decrease as we grow older? #DareToBe
A2. We curtail our amount of questioning because most don’t want people thinking of them as a 4 yr old, unfortunately. #DareToBe

Q3: A side effect of not asking questions is _______________. #DareToBe
A3. not getting to know others and how they think, behave, how they are. #DareToBe

Q4: Give an example of a time when you wished you had asked more questions. Why didn’t you? #DareToBe
A4. before joining the Army. I wished I had asked how to do more in my brief time (I thought I was doing a lot already) #DareToBe

Q5: Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers. –Voltaire/ Agree or Disagree? Explain. #DareToBe
A5. Agree. The questions determine what point of view and how deep the thought process goes #DareToBe

Q6: What benefits come from asking questions? #DareToBe
A6. The major benefit is learning more from both the question and the answer #DareToBe

Q7: The key to asking a good question is ________________. #DareToBe
A7. The key to asking a good question is expecting an even better answer #DareToBe

Q8: Is there such thing as a dumb question? Explain. #DareToBe
A8. There is such a thing as a dumb question when it is intentionally asked with malice. #DareToBe

Q9: At times questions create stress. How can we make others feel less threatened by questions? #DareToBe
A9. By explaining the question in as much detail as possible. Don’t bore them but explain that rationale behind the question #DareToBe

Q10: In today’s fast-paced world answers are often rewarded more than questions. How can we shift the focus? #DareToBe
A10. By expecting people to ask questions that are polar opposite of “Who are you wearing?” type questions #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to ask about ________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to ask about things I don’t usually ask. Starting with more WHY questions. #DareToBe

I invite you to join us on Twitter every Tuesday evening at 8PM Eastern / 7PM Central. Look for the #DARETOBE hashtag.

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#DareToBe Tweet Chat – Session: 051016

On Tuesday, May 10, 2016 the #DareToBe Tweetchat hosted by Andrea Sanchez (@asanchez16) took place
The #DareToBe topic was WISH (WISHES, WISHING, WISHED)

The following are Andrea’s ten questions and my answers.

Q1: What is a wish? #DareToBe
A1. A wish is a desired want or need that is not yet fulfilled #DareToBe

Q2: Wishing is often linked to children. Why are some adults uncomfortable making them? #DareToBe
A2. This adult is NOT uncomfortable making them. I wish for a lot but I know that if I work hard I can get what I want #DareToBe

Q3: You can make your wishes come true by _______________. #DareToBe
A3. You can make your wishes come true by setting goals and working to make them come to fruition. #DareToBe

Q4: A genie has granted you three wishes. What are they? #DareToBe
A4. 1. Health for my family  2. Success in Education 3. Ability to travel on a whim #DareToBe

Q5: Have you ever had a wish come true? What was it? #DareToBe
A5. Go back to Berlin and walk where “no man’s land” was. I did. #DareToBe

Q6: We’ve heard the phrase “dream big.” Is there such thing as too big? Explain. #DareToBe
A6. One can never dream too big. One person’s big is another’s not so big. That’s where others can come in and help make dreams come true #DareToBe

Q7: If you want something you’ve never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done. Agree/Disagree? #DareToBe
A7. True, True. I want a Ferrari, then I have to have the money to afford me the purchase. #DareToBe

Q8: Is there an unhealthy side to wishing? Elaborate. #DareToBe
A8. Too much of a good thing can be bad. In my case, all that travel would be draining and stressful #DareToBe

Q9: Wishes only work when ________________. #DareToBe
A9. Wishes only work when you work to make those wishes come true. #DareToBe

Q10: Give an example of how wishes come true all the time, even when you haven’t wished them. #DareToBe
A10. When one individual is genuinely kind to another #DareToBe

Q11: Tomorrow I will dare to wish for________________. #DareToBe
A11. Tomorrow I will dare to wish for more patience, peace, and prosperity. #DareToBe

I invite you to join us on Twitter every Tuesday evening at 8PM Eastern / 7PM Central. Look for the #DARETOBE hashtag.