Weekend Challenge 03 (02/08.20): HOW AM I DOING?
Remember, we are supposed to be learning from out past. The choice we made can never be undone but those choices also serve to shape our future. For every action we take there is an outcome we may or may not like.
However, when we make what we perceive to be rational and sound choices then no matter the outcome we feel we made the right choice. Whether the outcome was what we expected or not. It is when we make hasty and rash decisions that are not worth the risk that…well we get what we deserve: a hasty, rash and unsound outcome. To avoid the outcomes that are not in our favor or not exactly what we expected we have to focus on being intentional with our decision making and be prepared to deliver on a decision that may sometimes not give us what we expect or want.
One way to be intentional in our future decision making is to review our past decisions. Please read carefully: TO REVIEW OUR PAST DECISIONS and NOT TO DWELL ON THOSE DECISIONS AND THEIR OUTCOMES.
Sadly, as I write this I know there are individuals that are going to only read the last seven words of the previous sentence and all that I am writing will go to waste (on them).
Good thing, you are not one of those that dwells on past decisions only to repeat making the decisions that CONTINUE to deliver the outcomes and expectations that are NOT what you expected or anticipated. As leaders, the only common thread to decision making is ensuring that whatever the decision it is something you will learn from and become better as a leader but also as a human being.
REVIEW YOUR DECISIONS
The weekend, is the perfect time to pour yourself a cup of coffee or a cuppa tea or a snifter of warm brandy or whatever you choose to drink, and reflect on the past seven (7) days.
Use this weekend to review the following and be HONEST with yourself:
- What decisions were made?
- What decisions did you not make?
- Which decisions could have been better with more info?
- Which decisions were made in haste?
- Which decisions were made as a form of revenge (for example, I’ll show them)?
- Which decisions changed your life for the better?
- Which decisions changed your life for the worse?
- How were your relationships made better by your decisions?
- How were your relationships strained by your decisions?
- Did the decisions you made have a negative impact on others?
- Did the decisions you made have a lasting and positive impact on others?
- NOW REALLY BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF: Did the decisions you made have a negative impact on YOU?
These questions are to be used solely to IMPROVE your future. The answers are yours and yours alone, you do not have to share them with anyone but you do have to think about them but not for too long. Thinking too long is where the dwelling begins and that is NOT a good thing.
In the answers, see what needs improvement, what needs to be removed, what needs to be modified and most importantly what needs to remain. However, this will only work if you are willing to be HONEST and TRUTHFUL with yourself. It can be difficult because there are far too many individuals that truly believe they do not need to improve but everyone around them does.
Thus, I challenge you to get rid of the bad, the nastiness, the bitterness, the sadness, the distrust, the anger, the destructive, scarcity mindset and yes WE all have them to some degree or another. In case you FAILED to read that right, I wrote WE which INCLUDES ME.
I Challenge You to be better, do better, because as an adult and leader, you already KNOW better.
I Challenge You to let the good, happiness, growth and the abundance mindset in, take root and grow inside you.
I Challenge You to find the way to let the best in you coming shining through. To be the best version of you that you can be.
This Decision Review Challenge is one that you must repeat every week. Repeat it so that you are constantly improving. This challenge is actually quite simple on the complexity scale of 1 to 10. I give this a 5. Five in that, it may be a bitter pill to swallow, at first, but once you find yourself asking and honestly answering these questions it will get better. I promise it will get better and you will become better. You become better because you are aware of your actions and behaviors.
You are better because YOU WANT TO BECOME BETTER.
Well there it is, YOUR WEEKEND CHALLENGE, now get to work!