Then comes setting your boundaries. Plain and simple if you have NO BOUNDARIES then that is just an open invitation to let anyone into your life. Most certainly, there is the possibility that High Quality individuals may enter your life but if you have little to no boundaries do not expect those High Quality People to stick around or arrive in herds. However, those that will arrive and stick around are those that with little to no boundaries themselves as well as little to no respect for themselves, let alone any respect for you.
Another certainty is that having few boundaries will certainly attract those individuals that will do everything they can to test your boundaries (at first) then abuse the fact that you have little to no boundaries. So, yes, they will use and abuse you because of your failure to make, identify, and maintain any type (or kind) of boundaries. That is because they are ONLY in it for themselves.
Set your Standards/Boundaries HIGH and the only people you will be attracting are those that also set HIGH BOUNDARIES for themselves and expect others to RESPECT those boundaries and standards, no questions asked because they are giving respect in the first place.
A reminder: To Raise Your Standards and Set Boundaries, they have to be permanent. For those of you that think it is cute to say your standards are higher than your heels. Your heels end at your ankle and that is STILL pretty low to the ground.
Lastly, when it comes to setting Boundaries & Standards, they cannot be in form of a band-aid because others expect it and all you want to do is half-ass it. Remember, Success NEVER comes from doing anything Half-Ass.
Until Next Week,
David Guerra, MBA