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2025 – Let Slip The Flying Monkeys

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As we go into the start of a new month and the first weekend of February; the new year remains fresh. It is correct and proper to take time to reflect on the past, the present, and the future. We should always take time to do so.

But, taking time to reflect should always be without blinders and without bias. For those humble enough to accept their flaws without taking a defensive stance know they are not perfect and work hard to always be improving. Always being better than they were yesterday.

Yet, reality shows us those which pure, authentic, and genuine humility are not always in the majority. That is fine because those that are egotistical, lack humility, and have an arrogance which overcomes them are also not in the majority.

Those who have let their ego, arrogance, and sense of entitlement get away from them because no one has ever held them accountable. They have been doing what they do for too long. A stereotype sets in which centers on those lacking self-control and humility getting a free pass at life. It is those that continue to go unchecked and not held accountable going down a path leading to them becoming anything but decent human beings.
The way they behave, the different “faces” (façades) they share with family, friends, and total strangers are too many to believe. When called out, a “victim” mentality kicks in. Not for self-preservation, but to gain blind sympathy of those that are allowed to see the one side, never having the guts to question or attempt to look at the other side.

Those that do not look at the other side do so in fear of becoming the butt of the egoist’s jokes, bad-mouthing, and scapegoating. They fear getting on the egoist’s bad side. So, they flip/flop. They become Cowards. I was a coward (like those that remain now), but I took a stand. Enough was enough of that nonsense. I questioned the actions of the egoist. I called the egoist’s bluff, and true to form, I quickly become the “wrong-doer” and they were born again as the victim. True to form the egotistical narcissist became the victim solely to gain a new gaggle of flying monkeys to help feed the ego. Replacing one for many.

Do not get me wrong, this is not a hit piece, that kind of anger is gone now all that remains is bitterness. What spurred this? Recently, I came across something that has me begging the question: If after years you continue to bring the drama, stir the pot, bad mouth others all while demanding people kiss your ring, can you really call yourself a decent human being?

Folks, they say time heals all wounds. A word of advice/warning: some wounds are never meant to heal while the individual continues to pick at the scabs.

Thank you for indulging me,
David Guerra, MA, MBA

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2025: NOW WHAT?

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Here we are finishing the last weekend in January and what have we to show for it?

So far this has happened to all of us:

  1. We started a new year.
  2. A New President of the United States of America successfully transitioned into office.
  3. Life went on as it did on December 31, 2024.
  4. We are all a little older and hopefully a little wiser.
  5. Change has come, gone, and tomorrow will bring more change just like it did on December 31, 2024.

On the precipice of February 2025 we now have to take a moment or two and ask ourselves “NOW WHAT?

Personally, that is the question to ALWAYS be asked. Asked, no matter the situation, no matter the conversation, no matter the idea.

Professionally, NOW WHAT should be standard for everything action, every plan, every strategic initiative, everything!

NOW WHAT?
You ask and answer it. You alone know what is next for you in your personal, professional, and private life.

Ask “Now What?” to challenge yourself, to challenge others, and to challenge everything.

Of course, asking “Now What?” should always be a conversation starter and never the conclusion. Then again, when something ends ask, “Now What?

It really helps to keep the conversation going (it should always be going).

Now What?

Thanks for your time,
David Guerra, MA, MBA

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2024: Celebrate The Small Victories

A war is one through a long, sustained, series of battles. It is winning all the battles that hastens winning a war. These battles, big or small, will always pale in comparison to the war. Nonetheless, the battles must be fought and won. There is no changing that fact.

Of course, there are different perceptions when it comes to battles, conflicts, and wars. However, there is no escaping the fact that battles, conflicts, and/or wars must be fought. There will always be some conflict. There will always be some level of discord. There is no escaping the YIN and the YANG. In order to have harmony there has to be dissonance. Without dissonance how will anyone know what harmony is? It is inevitable and no amount burying your head in the sand will deny that fact.

This fact is important to remember, that while we may not win them all, the next battle is just ahead. This is not a pessimistic way of thinking. This is a realistic way of living. Our days are full of challenges with good and bad outcomes. However, we cannot let the bad over take us and just as we should never be complacent when it comes to the good. For those that feel they are too good to fail, then let me be the first to burst your bubble, YOU will lose. You will lose more times than you will win. How do I know this? I know this because I know I have failed more than I have won.

Failing makes me appreciate the climb and the small victories. While I may never win the war, I know that I have more failures ahead of me. I also know that I have more victories, as well. But in the end, there is no coming back from the ultimate and final loss. So keep kidding yourself but when the end comes, no one will care how much you won and most certainly no one will care how much you lost. It is over and there is no winning from that loss. See, in the end we all lose.

That is why celebrating the small victories, NOW, is just as important as celebrating winning the war. Make that trip memorable by having an adventure along the way. Do not see the trip as a means to an end (the destination) but see it as part of the entire journey (there and back). The same applies with experiences, competitions, and the like. Win or Lose; Rejoice in the fact that you are alive to experience the experience. Remember, while it may be an inconvenience, a flat tire is the moment to change priorities, you pivot and make the best of an unpredicted/unprecedented situation. You turn that detour into another adventure.

Then the celebration that follows will be even better. Of course, the small victories are just an excuse to celebrate. Winning the battle is just an excuse to celebrate. Waking up and putting your feet on the ground is just an excuse to celebrate. Here is a little-known fact: small losses are an excuse to celebrate. Losing a battle, losing a war are also just excuses to celebrate.

What I am saying, is GO AHEAD and CELEBRATE!

Thank you,
David Guerra

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