YOU DO HAVE CONTROL ON HOW OTHERS HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE
As the main topic has been ACCOUNTABILITY, HOW TO HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE, HOLDING OTHERS ACCOUNTABLE but there is another side to that coin. OTHERS WILL HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE & YOU WILL HAVE VERY LITTLE TO NO CONTROL OVER HOW OR WHY THEY DO SO.
Knowing that you cannot change people (their behavior) you can change people (move them out of your life) because of their negativity, how they choose to treat you, or whatever the reason. What that reason may be, you have the ability to control that aspect of any relationship.
If it is not working out then YES, you can make that change. While you can try to motivate them, inspiring them but you cannot dictate to them because they ARE holding you to a standard that they have not shared with you.
People will hold you accountable for an action or words spoken that you have absolutely NO CLUE (BECAUSE WE DO NOT READ MINDS) what that standard or expectation may be. Yet, they will hold you to and then blame you for not meeting their expectations or standard. How is that fair? It is not fair.
Therefore, you can change people. Remember, you are only as good as you tolerate. Stop tolerating their negative behavior and they will soon find someone else who will ignorantly accept that kind of behavior in their lives. Stop feeding the negative and soon they will go find someone else to feed off of and drain them of their positive energy.
Current and Future Leaders, it is your responsibility to make things right in your life first. If others do not like it, well that’s on them. You can only control yourself, your actions, your words, and what you are willing to tolerate from others especially when they do NOT want to be held accountable but have absolutely no problem holding you to the perverted sense of what is accountability and what they expect of you all the while never communicating that expectation or standard.
Time to cast away the lines that have been holding you down and GOOD RIDDANCE!
REMEMBER: ACTION is ALWAYS greater than WORDS
Get to work,
David Guerra, MBA
author THE WALKING LEADER